Hi. it’s been a while, I know. Maybe you didn’t notice and maybe you did. (I hope you did, and if you did, I hope you missed me.) The reasons for my absence are the usual: I’ve been busy with life and writing. I just finished a big revision for my next book (the subject and title of which shall remain a mystery for now) and between those moments, I’ve been busy with my family.
Given how irregular and sporadic I can be with my blogging, it would seem that I don’t really care for it much, but that really isn’t the case. I truly enjoy blogging and other social media, but admittedly, it is often the first thing I let go of when I’m feeling overloaded. This might be counterproductive for me as a blogger and net-worker (as I so often hear) but it is extremely efficient for me as a writer, wife, mother, and human being. One of the biggest stresses for me about blogging, Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, etc. is the the black hole of energy it creates. You can give endless amounts of time and energy to social media and still feel like you’re not doing enough. You can peruse all your friends’ updates and posts and tweets, and suddenly two hours have gone by and really, nothing has been gained or accomplished. And if you looked at Pinterest, you probably just tripled your to-do list and inferiority complex.
In connection with time considerations, I’m also extremely careful of what I post online. Have you ever heard or read advice about social media, about how often and when you should blog, tweet, update your status? I’ve seen countless statements of advice on this matter and they all say every day, or at least every other day, no less than twice a week. Any less than that and people will lose interest. The general consensus seems to be as much as possible.
I keep tabs on many blogs, and to be honest, I see a lot of filler, posts that are just to remind the audience of someone’s existence, to show everyone that they’re “keeping up.”. Everyone wants to be heard. We all feel we have something to say, and isn’t it wonderful that everyone has a fair chance? Anyone and everyone can get on the internet and say whatever they want. It’s great, and terrible at the same time. Everyone is saying something. Everyone is saying A LOT, and it seems the more we say, the less we think about what we’re saying, and the less other people actually listen.
My youngest sister started her own personal blog a while ago and she questioned (to no one in particular) “How often should I blog?” It seemed to be of concern to her, like there were rules on the matter, and there are, according to some. I went ahead and gave her the advice that no one ever gave to me:
Say something when you have something to say.
And learn when what you have to say is actually worth sharing with the world. (I forgot to give that second bit, but she seems to be doing okay.) Just because we can say whatever we want whenever we want, and share it with everyone in the world, doesn’t mean we should. Some things are better told face-to-face, to that special someone who is always there to listen to your every thought or concern, and some things are better left inside your head. Some thoughts should be killed with an axe. Even smart people think worthless nonsense from time to time; it’s just that the smart people can usually tell the difference between a thought worth sharing and thought worth vanquishing.
And so I defend my sporadic blogging habits with age-old wisdom: Less is more. And we need less now, more than ever, I think. I don’t want to throw filler at my audience just to remind you that I’m here. I respect your time and your brains. I will respect it by only sharing with you those things that I feel are truly worth sharing. I’d like you to know that when I post something, it’s because I actually have something to say.
And on that note, I’d be happy to hear what you’d like to hear about! Anyone have anything they’re dying to discuss? I’m open to suggestions. I know I said some thoughts are stupid, but I’ll still stand by “there are no stupid question.” (Most of the time.)