Sometimes when I tell people that I’m a writer the response varies, but often people ask, “Where do you find the time?”
And I always laugh a little. As a mother of three I don’t find any time. My time is gone long before it ever arrives. I steal time.
It’s never easy and I think I’ll always wish I could steal more time for writing, but I have a few guidelines and tricks that help me.
1. I don’t watch TV. Really. Zero.
2. I limit my blog time. 15 minutes a day. Some days I skip. I love blogs and I want people to love mine, but the blogs are really a secondary tool. It’s nice to express my thoughts and have a social network, but the blogs won’t write my book for me, nor get it published.
3. If Kids 1 and 2 are in school and Kid 3 is napping I WRITE. Only life threatening situations interrupt that time. The laundry and dishes are not life threatening, (contrary to popular belief.)
4. My awesome husband will often do clean-up and bedtime, so I can go straight to writing.
6. Have family laundry folding parties
7. If no one helps with the laundry, don’t fold it. Just throw it in the drawers. Wrinkly clothes never killed anyone.
8. Be picky. Because I really do want to be a writer, I don’t have many other hobbies. This is my hobby. I love friends and gatherings, but I’m picky about what I choose to attend or get involved in. No need to be reclusive, but maybe a little elusive.
In the end, writing is not my first priority. My family comes first. Sometimes that means I have to put my writing on the back burner. Sometimes I get irritable when I can’t write, but the most important thing is that we never give up. NEVER! We just keep doing what we love.
What are your tricks? I can always use more.